How to go from stress to joy this holiday season
It’s the holiday season…the time of the year that we look forward to right from our childhood.
This morning, my sons left with my sister’s family to spend their December holidays with my parents.
After sending them off, relaxingly sipping my morning coffee, I picked up The Hindu Weekend MetroPlus and found myself being bombarded with one page and half page ads...
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…and by the time I came to the last page I felt called to write this blog.
The flashback mode...
After putting the paper down, I went into a flashback mode recalling my December holidays during my school days in the late 1980s and early 1990s. If you are from that era, you’ll understand what I am talking about.
10 days of holidays meant only four things – play, eat, sleep. The 4th one of course was to repeat the first three until school reopened in January.
We either stayed in our home or we went to grandparents’ or aunt’s place because the two holiday destinations Ooty and Kodaikanal were meant for summer!
The December holidays were quite simple and it was a lot more fun.
Fast forward 20+ years…
Things have changed.
The planning for December holidays starts in October with the question, “Is it going to be local or international?”
You are either planning or hearing people talk about the holiday packages and travel plans.
Then, as the holidays get nearer and nearer, the festive offers and sale keep getting bigger and bigger.
So, you are either shopping or not shopping and you are either going on vacation or not going on vacation.
Whichever activity you are doing or not doing, there is ONE thing that comes into the forefront during this season – YOUR MONEY PROGRAM!
Now, here’s is an interesting revelation:
Your money program has nothing to do
with the amount of money you have!
You can be on a much awaited holiday in Mauritius and still feel anxious every time you spend money. Anxiety is your money program.
You could have shopped until your feet gave way and felt guilty about it. Guilt is your money program.
You could have lakhs and lakhs in your bank account and still feel it is not enough. Scarcity is your money program.
You could be someone who has Rs. 1000 in your bank account now and still be thankful for it. Gratitude is your money program.
How do you know what your money program is?
To find it out, answer this simple question.
Are you feeling joy this holiday season or are you feeling stressed out?
That is your money program.
Our money programs run very deep and though reprogramming our money programs require a deeper level of work, in this blog I wanted to share 3 simple but powerful steps to stop feeling stressed out and have more fun this holiday season.
Step 1: Unhijack yourself
What are the triggers that are hijacking your emotions this holiday season?
It can be the shopping or hearing people talk about their vacation or seeing ads on television or happy photos on Facebook.
Yeah, it can seem like everyone else other than you is having fun :)
Becoming more aware of your stress pattern by itself will stop you from being hijacked by your emotions.
Step 2: Get the highest deal
The first and foremost cause of stress is expectations. It’s time for exchange.
As Tony Robins so beautifully said, “Trade your expectations for appreciation and your whole world changes in an instant.”
Drop your expectations and take a moment to appreciate what you already have.
You might get more happiness in exchange for dropping your expectations.
Get the highest deal. It’s the holiday season after all!
Step 3: Follow your heart
Expectations come from your mind. Appreciation comes from your heart.
Now that you are in your heart space, re-look at your holiday plans.
Ask yourself, “How can I make it more memorable and more meaningful? How can I have more fun with what I already have?”
Listen to your heart. Follow your heart.
Wishing you wonderful holidays filled with more love and more fun.